
For years I have heard people ask questions such as “How can those foster parent’s NOT have the $$ to buy the foster kids nice stuff?” “Don’t they get a ton of $$ from the state?” “What do they DO with all of that $$?” I think there are many false concepts such as these floating around in the eyes of the general population. Please allow me to answer a few of these for you, and I pray I do so in an eye opening and clear manner.
Many foster children come into the system with NOTHING, other than what is on their back. Some even less than that. Some babies come with nothing but a soiled diaper to call their own. Occasionally we as foster parents get lucky and they have 1-2 changes of clothes with them. More often than not, you are starting completely from scratch. Even those lucky enough to get a clothing allowance generally do not see that for up to two weeks. When we DO get the allowance it is generally only enough $$ for 1-2 weeks worth of clothing. So you are starting a full wardrobe from scratch. Take a look in your own closet, and imagine having to buy everything in your closet, all at once.
People also seem to be under the assumption that you are handed a wad of cash when they drop off the kids. Let me clarify that one. Depending on what agency you are through you may be paid bi-weekly or Monthly. Just like any other “job” (to put it in terms you will identify with), you are paid 2 weeks to a month late. So in June you are paid for May. If you get your first child May 1st, it may very well be June 30th before you see a penny for the care of that child. (Again depending whom you work for.) While many foster parents can more than handle their own families and the added financial stress of fosters, the first month or two when you are starting with NOTHING and no extra $$ to work with, other than your own, it is tough. Not only do these kids come with no personal items or clothing, you also have to take them for visits to doctors, dentists, therapists, Optometrists, specialists etc. Once you are done with that, you still have to be able to feed them too. So as you can easily see, it is quite easily to run through a good amount of $$ in a very short period of time.
Now do you understand a little better why foster parents are needing your help. I would love to say that the DCS and other foster agencies just slathers foster parents in money and they haven’t a care in the world, but truth be told, what you are given is barely enough to cover the childrens absolute basics, and in the first few months it isn’t enough to cover everything. So those roomers about people “doing it for the money” are so not true. If you become a foster for the $$, you are digging a sand pit on a windy day. You will sink.
It is my hope that this clears up some of the confusion surrounding the financial state of most foster families. It isn’t that we are dirt poor, because most of us are far from it. We are not exactly rolling in dough and buying them Bentlies for their 16th birthday either tho. It is a challenge and a struggle to build a solid foundation from nothing, but is a challenge we take on head on every single time a new child is placed in our home. It is a challenge I personally enjoy, but not one that comes cheep. It is actually my favorite part, well that and the hugs! You can’t beat the hugs and “Thank You”‘s. It makes life worth living.
So next time you go through your kids clothes, shoes, toys or books, bring them down to Momma Angel’s Treasures. We will see that they get into the hands of those that need them. Fosters, kinship cases, and newly adopted children do not pay for those items here in our store. We pack them up with a smile, and enjoy being able to pass along a blessing to someone in need. Thank you for everything you do to help us continue to be a blessing to others.
For more information on how to BECOME a foster parent call 1-800-DCS-KIDS. Or visit their website at http://www.tn.gov/youth/fostercare.htm
—Momma Angel
